How to Talk to Your Loved Ones About Your Final Wishes

End of life can be a tough subject to tackle. You may want to share your final wishes with your family, but you aren’t sure how to bring up the topic or make your wishes clear.

Here are some helpful tips on how to approach the subject and communicate your desires with your friends and family:

  • Start with notes: Before you discuss your final wishes with your loved ones, write down what you want to say. Jot down all the things you’d like to discuss, so you can refer to this during your conversation. This will help you stay on track and make sure you don’t forget to tell them something important.
  • Choose a good setting: This isn’t a conversation to have in a busy restaurant or at a loud family gathering. Have your discussion in a calm, quiet space without distractions or outside disturbances. Pick a comfortable spot where everyone can be seated and not bothered by uncomfortable temperatures or other environmental factors.
  • Have a single conversation: Rather than try to have a repeated discussion with several family members, gather everyone at once, and share your final wishes with all of them. This eliminates any disagreements about what might have been said differently to different parties; it puts everyone on the same page.
  • Include details: Sharing your final wishes in vague terms can prove to be more stressful to family members than to not have any knowledge of your final wishes. It may lead to disagreements among family members on how to interpret your wishes. To avoid these conflicts, be clear about your wishes, including any necessary details to remove any ambiguity.
  • Be open to feedback: While you should prepare what you want to say and remain confident in your instructions for end of life, it’s also good to listen to feedback from your loved ones. They may have helpful input or additional ideas that would be good to incorporate into your final wishes.
  • Consult a professional: As you decide on final wishes, memorials and other considerations, it can be helpful to involve a professional. Consider contacting a local funeral home to speak with someone who can provide insight on your options. With extensive experience in carrying out final wishes, these professionals can help make this process easier and smoother for you.

We’re here to help

Evergreen Funeral Home, Cemetery & Cremations offers a wide range of personalized services to suit your final wishes and requirements. You can count on us to help you plan your final wishes and put things in place for the future. We’ll carefully guide you through the many decisions that must be made as you consider details for end-of-life events. Our pledge to you is that we will listen and plan every detail to your satisfaction.

Whether you choose services in our comfortable chapel or your church, our wish is to assist you with an honorable celebration of life and to help alleviate the burden on your loved ones. Give us a call today at 919-739-0077.